I met Bonnie Gayle through mutual acquaintances and this is her story of why she co-created Sex Butter: 

One day Bonnie was introduced to a woman who had had breast cancer 5 years prior.  For the last 5 years this woman was not able to be sexually intimate with her husband as it was just too painful.  Bonnie gave this woman a sample of her product (which at the time had no name). This woman called her 24 hours later crying that the last 24 hours were the first time she had been able to urinate without stinging, Bonnie reminded her to use it daily for a week prior to attempting intimacy.   A week later both the woman and the husband called from different extensions saying "you saved our marriage".  Bonnie decided there was a deeper meaning for this product and went about creating a name and figuring out where she would get it manufactured.

Sex Butter was the original product, for me personally it's my favorite, but it does have some peppermint and other essential oils in it. For some women who are dry, dry, dry it is slightly irritating and we heard that they felt it stung, some didn't like the name so Boudoir Butter was created. It is very similar to Sex Butter but has no essential oils. The feedback I get is that some like one, some like the other and some like both. If you have questions, feel free to call me at 914-923-4346 or email me. Always remember, "your intimate relations don’t have to stop just because of the side effects of menopause or medications which cause dryness."